Matt Panter: Is anyone else dreading their child's secondary school transition?

It was a carrot dangling tantalisingly in front of you. Those halcyon days – the last few weeks at primary school – as you edged closer to the summer holidays.

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You'd merrily skip into school, ready to rehearse for an end-of-year stage play, to practise for the three-legged race at sports day or to enjoy a raft of fun, craft activities.

And, for those growing up in the 80s, it was all in the knowledge that you had six weeks of time on your BMX or Grifter to come, alongside mornings watching Wacaday, while playing Mallett's Mallet and all.

But, many moons later, here I am now – the stressed parent. Times have changed. I am dreading the end of this particular term.

It's not even due to the added burden on your wallet when your child is off school – although finding things to do at low cost, especially in these challenging times, can be a major worry.

This year marks my daughter Eleanor's final one at primary school, a significant time of her life. Come September, she will be heading off to a new, much bigger school. A world of opportunity, they say.

She's excited about the transition, which is obviously a relief as a parent. But I feel quite different. After all, there's something comforting about primary school life, like being wrapped in a cosy blanket with a mug of hot chocolate. I've never forgotten my inspirational teachers from my primary school, alongside playground life, conkers, football and pretending to be Luke Skywalker.

But the transition to secondary school seems worrying, as a parent, like someone is ripping that comfort blanket from your grasp and drinking your hot chocolate. Towering buildings, huge, long corridors, more (and bigger) children await.

Am I the only parent panicked by this? Apparently not, one secondary school teacher I know told me.

"Parents' worries are often worse," she said. "They can project their fears of the big wide world onto the children. It would be safer and easier for us to keep our children in their bubble."

And so, I was told, the key is to become a cheerleader and to enthuse our children about secondary school, encourage them to step out of their comfort zone and belong to a new community.

So, if you're a worried parent, like me, it's time to embrace this summer with your young one and look ahead to their new adventures with excitement.

Just try not to think about the first time they return home and ask for your help with a linear equation or, if you are like me, panic might just set in again!

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