Care less, you only live each day once

Life as an adult, in this modern society is full of strain and stresses.

We bustle about our duties, with tunnel vision half the time, whizz past the beautiful things in life in order to do what needs to be done.

We pay bills and taxes in this Earthly collectivism.

We are effectively working a mill – together, but apart.

We keep things turning, and occasionally we earn a short breather, we can stop, enjoy the company of a fellow mill-worker, catch a pretty sunset in its far away glory, and sigh, before continuing on.

But it’s always work. Life is work. I speak as a mother of five, I enthusiastically home educate three children, while nursing a newborn and picking up the smelly socks and disappointments of my eldest.

I work as an artist, a singer, a creator, I suppose. Sounds great, when I say it all. It’s my ideal life – and gosh, do I appreciate it! I love my jobs, I am fortunate.

But it is such work to keep my mill going.

And when life does feel tough, what makes it harder is the idealism, the windows we now have into other people’s sunny ‘grass is greener’ display.

The endless competition which has led us blindly to want more, want better.

It is okay to want better, but that should come from within us, not from someone’s gym selfie that they probably retook 28 times to get the best angle. Nowadays, I think we go out of our way to prove ourselves. To prove we are good enough.

Isn’t that a shame? The need to prove we are eating healthily with our tweet of our avocado and cashew salad for lunch.

It’s nuts! (No pun intended) Turn the self-questioning off, and that need to prove. It’s the healthiest thing you will do.

A friend of mine once said she was on a ‘Facebook holiday’. “Wow... I’d love to go there” I thought. A life with no Facebook... (and then kicks in) “Pretty scary though, because all my work is there, and I have to keep up and people might message me and”– NO. It is not careless to care less! Simply, CARE LESS. It will free you.

Have regular Facebook holidays! We need to stop giving a proverbial about other people, what they think, and how it all affects us.

We need to stop making time for what isn’t benefitting us or making us happy, directly, because let’s be honest, we don’t have time.

I’m not saying adopt meanness instead of kindness, I am kindness’ number one fan.

It’s just, what happened to living authentically? Frankly, I think we have forgotten how.

If you are not guilty of this life contest, I salute you! I have certainly been guilty of it before.

We only get to live each day once, there are no re-runs.

Same goes for life. Do something today for you, and only share it with yourself.

I choose Care-less-ness.