Lou's Women - Revenge not so sweet for Vicky Pryce

Revenge may be a dish best served cold. But for Vicky Pryce it’s all ended with a distinctly frosty chill - a spell of chilly porridge.

Vicky Pryce and Chris Huhne
Vicky Pryce and Chris Huhne

If ever there was a cautionary tale about the risks of lashing out to get your own back when you feel wronged, this is it.

It brings to mind another proverb – this one Chinese – “he who seeks vengeance must dig two graves: one for his enemy and one for himself."

In this case the “graves” are a jail sentence not only for the cheating husband Chris Huhne but also for the spurned woman who went all out for payback – as well as a lot of dirty laundry aired in public, which has left an indelible mark on the whole family that no amount of washing powder will erase.

But revenge can be sweet, particularly if done with a sense of humour.

A woman I know once carried all her estranged husband’s clothes to the love nest he was sharing with his new girlfriend, dumped them on the front garden and left a Welsh flag sticking out of the top of them.

Yes, he was Welsh – and, as word spread, it caused a fair amount of amusement among our circle.

As you will read below, some of Lou’s Women, have some other stories of revenge – like Ellie Wright’s about a woman who marched off from her “lazy” husband, taking the TV remote control with her.

The main lesson, surely, is to really think through the possible repercussions of your vengeful actions – because if you know their guilty secret they will probably know yours.

And if your partner asks you to put his speeding points on your licence, just tell him to take a hike.

Read more of Lou’s Women’s comments – and add your own view – below.

Retired Kidderminster midwife Ellie Wright says: "Life is too short so just walk away, they will get what they deserve later in life.

"I have no sympathy with Vicky Pryce - she was in sane mind, an intelligent businesswoman and she new exactly what she was doing, it just shows that our justice system works (sometimes).

"I knew a lady once who left her husband because he was lazy and put nothing into the marriage always watching the TV. In the end she left him and took the remote control with her. Someone else left her partner because he was going off with a much younger women. She left his flat, but phoned the talking clock in New York before she went leaving the phone off the hook - wow, what a phone bill that would be.

"So is revenge sweet? maybe.”

Kinver zumba teacher Lou Thomas says: “What is the saying – revenge is sweet ? I don’t think so. If you can’t let go of the anger you hurt yourself far more than the person who has wronged you. I can understand why Vicky Pryce wanted revenge but is she enjoying sweet satisfaction now ? Her actions have brought tragedy on herself and her family. Of course you know what will happen now don’t you ? She will make a fortune from writing a book ! So perhaps there will be a happy ending after all .”

Llama Lady Chris Armstrong, from Enville, near Stourbridge, says: “I've never felt the need to take revenge as I truly believe that you reap what you sow. I have never had anything so bad done to me that I have needed to arrange a payback or perhaps I'm just too lazy to go through all of the hassle!”

Student Alice Durant says: “I think it depends on what they’ve done. If someone betrays you it's probably better not to sink to their level, but a bit of cheeky revenge does make you feel better!”

Health and safety expert Elaine James, from Cookley, near Kidderminster, says: “I have never sought revenge although someone who hurt me very badly with no thought to my feelings met her ‘come-uppance’. It wasn't through anything I'd schemed to do but when it happened it was difficult not to feel great satisfaction.

"However, from the other angle, I'm a great believer in feeling good about yourself by the actions you take and the way you treat people. Seeking revenge might have a short lived satisfaction but are you really going to feel good inside. I doubt it. Doing the right thing and if necessary ‘turning the other cheek’ gives a longer lasting satisfaction and strangely works out better in the long run. Every cloud has a silver lining and all that.”

Willenhall social worker Stacey Senior says: “When I was 20 I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me because whilst we were asleep he got a sordid photo text message on this phone from another woman. Without needing to check his photo the image displayed on his screen and I was livid. Rather than wake him up I got a permanent marker pen and spelt out a rather rude word on his back in a very large letters!

"His mother thought he was an angel and so it was a bonus for me was that his mother was the first person to tell him the next day when he went home and she saw it while he was getting ready for work. Of course then he had to explain to her why he had this word written on his back. Wish I could have been a fly on the wall to see her face. It was a satisfying victory!

Not that I advocate for revenge nowadays, but that was a fond memory for me in getting my own back in a way I felt was well deserved!”

From South Korea, where she now lives, former Stourbridge language coordinator Irina James says: “Revenge is always futile. This should not come unexpected to Mrs. Pryce.”

Wombourne conservationist Sheena Hamilton says: “Revenge stems from emotions of feeling deeply betrayed and it’s understandable sometimes to strike out with venom. But anyone doing it should make sure their back’s clean first and that they don’t get deeper into trouble.

"Vicky Pryce was betrayed but she didn’t think it through properly – she could perhaps have got her pound of flesh in other ways.”

Comments for: "Lou's Women - Revenge not so sweet for Vicky Pryce"

Albrightondek

There seems to be a presumption by the writer and all the women commenting on this story, that Vicky Pryce must regret her actions. When she is released and makes her own view known, only then will we know. Prison won't be a pleasant experience, but I think she may well get a more sympathetic reception amongst her women inmates, than Huhne will amongst his fellow inmates.

I personally have no sympathy for either of them; a pox on both their houses. The main casualty would appear to be their son, who has quite clearly taken his mothers side.

Pryce strikes me as a very strong willed women, and may well find it easier to resume her career as a journalist/economist than it will be for Huhne to find some alternative to his previous career(s). If that is so, then she might feel that it was all worthwhile.

Pete

I AM JUST GLAD THEY BOTH GO JAILED FOR THIS. THEY WERE JAILED FOR BREAKING THE LAW NOT BECAUSE HE CHEATED ON HER. I'M SURPRISED THEIR TOP LAWYERS DIDN'T GET THEM OFF BECAUSE OF WHO THEY ARE HOWEVER I THINK IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN A LONGER SENTENCE!

PAUL MULLERY

The reason why men sometimes stray, Lou, is that women go off the boil romantically once married. The affection disappears as the years roll by. Why women are like this I don't know but men find it quite disillusioning. As one wise woman once told me, "I keep my man satisfied because if I don't I know there will always be a woman about who will" - as Vicky Pryce and many other women have found out.